#11 - Kopitar Prefers Amps That Go to Eleven

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Re: Random Hockey Things

[(Anonymous)]

Also, personally I wonder about bisexual tendencies. I figure without stigma in culture the percentage would be way higher. Rn, a better way to measure would probably to ask after sexual behaviours with the "same" sex in the past.

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[(Anonymous)]

OK Cupid had a stats blog that analyzed that at one point (they were really interesting posts imo) and I think the numbers for "at least tried it and enjoyed themselves" were like... over 50% for women.

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[(Anonymous)]

I know a fair number of people- not a lot, but some- who have had sex with people of both genders but wouldn't call themselves bi because it isn't either equal attraction or they don't feel like they're a part of the culture. or they would have sex with women but don't see themselves in a relationship with a women, etc.

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[(Anonymous)]

When there's less stigma and you're more open to it, you can wind up sleeping with people who don't necessarily turn your crank, to the point where sleeping with a woman because you like her as a person, you're starved for physical intimacy, and you've been up front about not really having a lot of sexual desire, but wanting to make her feel good and she's happy with that, well, such things can happen. At least in my experience.

That's part of why basing such surveys on actions isn't necessarily more clear.

Re: Random Hockey Things

[(Anonymous)]

Yep. I could easily see an athlete who slept with a man in college/juniors/the summer, but wouldn't self-identity as anything but straight.

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[(Anonymous)]

DA

The "not feeling like they're part of the culture" is why I'm always wary about making sexual preferences or having same sex attraction anything more than what it is. The LGBT community can be really conforming and alienating for those who aren't very alternative, for a lack of a better word, and that makes people who aren't straight but don't identify with what's considered "queer culture" less likely to come out at all.

(And yes I am speaking from experience)

Re: Random Hockey Things

[(Anonymous)]

Cosigning your statement on the strange and sometimes alienating nature of the LGBT community ... and I say that as someone who does fit the bill of queer lady norms (I'm vaguely androgynous looking, 'alternative', involved in lestist things, etc).

Re: Random Hockey Things

[(Anonymous)]

That's not perfect either. There really isn't a foolproof way to measure it, whether it's simply defining what's being measured, false reporting, improperly eliminating a group through a bad filter, etc.

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[(Anonymous)]

ayrt
Yeah, it doesn't matter if they go on to marry straight and are as homophobic as normal. The commenter about queer culture also has it right, maybe they do those practices but are not in the "subculture" for better lack of word. Not to suggest LGBT can easily turn straight or something, but I guess sexuality is to some extend fluid and the fewest people will be 100% like the definition.

(e.g. I identify as bi/pan, but am alot more interested in women rn, especially since most guys are really socialized in a way I couldn't imagine a relationship with. I could also completely understand that someone with the same preferences as me might say "I'm a lesbian" and leave it at that, because in praxis there's no... real difference, for me at least?)

Anyway, maybe I'm biased, but I always think the 3.8% number is probably too low due to the stigma around it. We probably won't see an end for that, of course, and I guess right now offering support to out and closeted individuals is the way to go. Idk how the "technically practicing/practiced" portion of people can be addressed in the future.