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Re: Patrick Kane
From: (Anonymous)I wasn't going to wade into this entire "no comment" debate, but after reading everything I decided to add my voice.
Do I think it's the equivalent of a "no comment" or a non-response? Not at all. However, from a PR standpoint, I don't think that "no comment" is a viable response because "no comment" is not neutral, despite what we would like to think. In this situation, the connotation of "no comment" is the line of "we officially disapprove Kane's actions and are seeking to get rid of him in some way". So Toews' response definitely isn't "no comment".
But it isn't a non-response, either. Someone further down the thread made the example of "we just need to focus on the season" as a non-response that would have been PR okay and neutral, which is what I would have expected from Toews and would have been okay with. Unfortunately, that's not what Toews said, which leaves us to analyse an unwieldy comment. A comment I am 98% not okay with.
The comment clearly reads (and hears) as some sort of support for Kane. Honestly, I don't know if Toews truly supports Kane or not. All we have to go on is what he said, and we don't know if that's what he meant or if he garbled along with some random shit. Either way, we should assume the worst, which means that I do think that it's unconscionable for him to equate (in any way) the Kane situation with affair rumours that went around last year at the very least. The fact that Toews mentions things "off the ice" and then says they do "a good job of sticking together" makes it appear that he supports Kane. This is the 98% that makes me feel "not okay" about things (understatement). It makes me want to vomit.
And yet, there is the 2% ambivalence I feel over how much Toews actually supports Kane. If I was just hearing the interview, I wouldn't have that 2%, but, as a human, there is no way for my personal experiences not to colour how I perceive the comment. Everything goes through that filter and I hate that about life.
I was on a varsity team where one of my teammates had rape allegations leveled against him. Rape allegations that I knew to be true because I was the one who leveled them. While it obviously wasn't as publicized, there were articles in the local newspapers and the order given to the team was to say "we stick together". Even though the coach knew I was the victim. I had two close friends on the team who defended me and helped me privately but in the end they had to say the "stick together" line because those were the orders and that's what you did. You followed that culture. It was the shittiest year of my life and I ended up quitting the team.
tl;dr, I guess my experience makes me feel ambivalent about judging how Toews really feels. That's probably a bad thing. I feel really guilty that even as a survivor I'm feeling like I should give Toews the "benefit of the doubt". I just don't know how to get that out of me.
I'm just really fucking upset and I hate my rational side for not letting me be that upset and for making me feel like this. I'm so done with all of this. It makes me want to cry.