#11 - Kopitar Prefers Amps That Go to Eleven

[dekedangle_rpf_mod]

This is the eleventh post of Deke Dangle RPF Anon, a community for all your ice hockey anon meme needs.

THE RULES

1. Mods retain the right to delete, freeze, and/or screen threads and comments.
2. Meme rules do not require warnings.
3. Respect flock. Do not repost or share information from private tumblrs, locked twitter accounts, flocked LJ posts, etc.
4. No linking fans to their real life identities.
5. No looks bashing or body shaming. This applies to players and people associated with those players and their clubs, as well as fellow fans.
6. No embedded music.
7. No embedded images.
8. No spamming the meme, whether through repeated comments or other means.

Meme rules do not require spoiler cuts. However, this layout does allow for them. Any of the following tags will create a spoiler cut when closed: <div cut>, <span cut>, <font cut>, <font color="white">

Threaded View
Flat View
Top-Level Comment View

Next post opens at 5,000 comments.

Comments

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not denying them agency by saying they might be with these guys for reasons other than their money, and might actually expect fidelity and be hurt when they don't receive it.

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

+1

I don't see why 'my boyfriend/husband is a famous athlete with money' and 'I expect fidelity from this person I love and who loves me' have to be mutually exclusive things. No, I don't think money makes up for it if your partner is cheating and you're unaware of it. All the $ in the world isn't going to make someone feel better if they find out.

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

Then they could leave? My point was about why these women decide to put up with the cheating and why it's so rampant. I'm sure they are hurt over the affairs, but if you think Toews' gf would be cool with him bringing hookups back to his apartment if he was earning a teacher's salary and she thought she could potentially find someone better, I think you are naïve. It's a scarcity issue. They don't think they can find anyone better, so they are willing to put up with what they have to in order to maintain their lifestyle.

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

And as other anons have stated, some of them can't leave. A lot of them are on visas that are dependent on their husbands' work, and if they've been dating someone rich and famous for a long time they may or may not have viable job skills or a useful resume. If the choice is between an unhappy marriage and an uncertain future, a lot of them are rightly going to stick with the former even if it's awful. Don't pretend it's some quick and easy thing.

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not seeing where they can't leave if they don't like the situation? The issue seems to be that if they left they might have to make a lot of adjustments, maybe go back to school, learn to live on less money, or possibly go back to Canada (or wherever else they are from). OK? So basically, if they decide to remain in the relationship they weighed the pros and cons and determined that it was better to stay. That's basically what I said in my initial post, so I think we're only disagreeing on the amount of sympathy we should have for their situation. At the end of the day, these women made their choice to be dependent when they decided to forgo their own careers to follow their husbands/boyfriends around knowing full well that athletes are notorious cheaters and that the athlete lifestyle isn't the most conducive to relationships. And it's not as if they were forced to date these guys - in fact, it was probably a dream come true for most them. So no, in the big scheme of things, I can't dredge up too much sympathy for women who might have to endure some random groupies in order to live the high life.

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

[(Anonymous)]

+1.

I mean, I have the fullest extent of sympathy for people like Voynov's wife, who is in the most literal definition of an abusive relationship and where up and leaving always comes with the risk of serious repercussions, but it's not like anyone's holding a gun to the head of the average WAG. So she's stuck between having a boyfriend who doesn't love her enough to stop fucking other women or the possibility she'll have to move back home and get a job. If she chooses the former, I'm not going to cry a river over what she's made clear are her priorities.

Though I'll fully admit it's a whole other dynamic when children come into the mix. That's a lot more of a layered and difficult situation to deal with.