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From: (Anonymous)
It's a common knowledge thing in Chicago and, from what I've heard, in Winnipeg. (And speaking of bros - Toews is the bro-est of bros, which is easily seen if you encounter him IRL.)
In Chicago, he runs in the same circles & establishments that he met his GF in - goes to the same clubs, bars, etc., so if you frequent the same areas, you will meet him. I have 2 particular girl friends that visit the same clubs & bars as Toews a lot, and they're both pretty gorgeous. It took maybe 2 or 3 run-ins with Toews before they were invited back to his place (each woman at different times, lol I just realized that came across like it was an orgy thing, but sadly not). Once they exchanged info, he'd hit them up occasionally to meet him.
The last few times, his place was an apartment in the Loop, not his new place in Lincolnwood.
The rumors about Winnipeg are that when he goes there for weeks at a time, and his GF stays in Chicago, he sleeps around when that happens.

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ayrt

lol no orgies then.

He doesn't really come off as a "bro" just judging by what is portayed in the media, but yeah, I could see it. Thanks for sharing :)

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NA
I know this is super common for athletes, but I just don't get why they even bother to have a gf????

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na

Why does anyone cheat? They want to have both emotional intimacy and also sexual variety and either have an understanding or don't care about hurting their primary partner.

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na

Having a particular someone around for their downtime with whom they get along, who can show up to events and generally represent them well?

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I feel like having a girlfriend for a lot of guys - not just athletes - makes them feel better about their image and ego. Like, they're doing something right if they have a girlfriend. Anytime I hear someone cheats, I also assume they're just not as into the person they're with in the first place as they used to be and they think it would be too much trouble/drama for them to break it off.

Open relationships are another thing though.

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There's also a particular lack of respect for women in athletic circles that I feel makes cheating more likely. If you already don't respect your girlfriend's feelings or don't consider them completely valid, are you really going to care if you hurt her by cheating on her?

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ayrt- Yeah, I get that. (and other nonnies who responded- I totally see what you mean too). I guess I was thinking from my own personal dating experience, where if I wanted to cheat on my bf that bad I would seriously reconsider the relationship, but I'm not a millionaire douchebro athlete!!!

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ayrt I don't think their 'official' relationship even comes into consideration when they cheat tbh. The fact that you already think 'i would seriously reconsider the relationship' sets you apart from actual cheaters who probably doesn't even think twice about their relationship with their 'official partner' when they cheat.

I used to have a friend who was cheating on her boyfriend and I asked her how she thought he would feel if he found out. She told me she didn't see why it mattered. I would think that's how most of them operate.

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Open relationships. Sure.

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DA

Well, open relationships are a completely other thing. I massively doubt the vast majority of hockey players have them, but I'd honestly respect them a lot more if they actually did have negotiated open relationships. It's a hell of a lot better than cheating. Not that we'd know, either way.

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A little tangentially, the whole thing of beautiful girlfriend/wife as a symbol of success to be flaunted (which is rampant not only amongst athletes) is one of the reasons I find it so interesting that Crosby does the opposite, and is (or was) so private about his relationship with a beautiful model.

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NAYRT

I am so sick of people tinhatting Crosby/Leutner. I think they're probably fuckbuddies, at best, because seriously? There's nobody that private for that many years. He's really not that famous.

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ayrt

The way I see it, Crosby takes enough pride in his success as a hockey player that he probably doesn't feel the need to flaunt having a beautiful girlfriend/wife to boost his image. I'm sure this applies to more players than just him as well and that they are more than happy to be confirmed bachelors.

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To have a live-in sex partner who also does laundry and dishes?

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I was watching Jersey Boys (about the musical group, The Four Seasons) the other day and in the movie this married guy whose family is back home is telling this woman that it's no problem for her to be his girlfriend to take with him on the road, because "everyone has a girlfriend, ya gotta have a girlfriend." She's, like, "so, if you knew that, then why get married?" His response is a totally shocked/surprised/duh "Because family is everything."

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From: (Anonymous)
Well, I mean, you can want to have an intimate emotional and sexual relationship with someone based off of compatability and shared experiences and also want some fun but ultimately meaningless fucks with randos.

I'm of the opinion that if she doesn't mind and he wouldn't mind if she hooks up when he wasn't around, what's the harm? If they don't see sex as something inescapably intertwined with love, it's the equivalent of going out on date nights vs. going out with your buddies. One's not a betrayal of the other.

Sadly, it's probably fairly rare that the girlfriend doesn't tolerate-and-resent his actions and the guy would be down for her picking up dudes when she felt like it.

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From: (Anonymous)
Yeah, I think the fact that athletes cheating is so rampant and brazen is simply because they are exploiting the income/status disparity of the relationship. Multi-millionaire athletes are a lot rarer than attractive women, and for every girlfriend, there are tons of other women who would love to be in her place if things ever went wrong. I'm sure a lot of the wives get upset, but the lifestyle is probably too tempting to leave behind. So I can't feel too bad for the wives because even they don't get fidelity, they do get compensating returns which they've obviously determined make up for the cheating.

You can't get everything in life. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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From: (Anonymous)
"compensating returns"

Lol, why don't you just come out with it and call every woman who marries a rich athlete a gold digger if that's how you feel?

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You're being awfully cavalier given that for a lot of these women, it's not likely much of a choice. They're often unable to establish themselves in a wage-earning career themselves because of following their husbands around or visa issues and are completely dependent on what's considered their husband's income, though it should be half theirs by right. There's a huge difference between "I don't know what I'll do if I leave him" and "Hey, I've got money, so whatevs!"

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Okay, but how do you feel if their wife is independently wealthy? Not all them of them married "beneath" them.

(Hell, Mike Fisher undoubtedly has far less money than his wife.)

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da
From my knowledge of what I've heard - the common arrangement seems to be - well, I can't stop him from going out and cheating, but I'm his main girlfriend, and I'm the one he admits to publicly. In return, they get a lot of carte blanche in deciding how things are going to be run at home, and the spending money to do it, and, most importantly, the promise that when the career's done, the cheating stops. This is for the women that know about the cheating, and tolerate it.
The pro athletes I've talked to, including hockey players, do not tolerate the same behavior from their partners.
The difference is that usually these guys only do it when they're away on the road, so the partner doesn't have to deal with it in her face, or to make sure she doesn't find out.

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There was some guy on Reddit a while back saying he'd been to some of Toews' Winnipeg parties and that there were underage girls there and Toews told them they had to take their tops off if they wanted to get into the hot tub.

It was a while ago, and I remember he went into more detail replying to people in a few comments, but I can't remember what else he said, sorry.

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From: (Anonymous)
I remember that comment, but I think his username was GuyWhoOnlyLies or something like that and he made the comment as a joke because the thread was very pro-Toews. Or maybe I'm remembering another situation...

Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip

From: (Anonymous)
AYRT

I think that may have been another situation? The guy I remember talked about living near Toews and seemed to be talking seriously with other posters.

Ultimately it's Reddit, so it's all grain of salt anyway.

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