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Re: Player Lives and Random Gossip
From: (Anonymous)In Chicago, he runs in the same circles & establishments that he met his GF in - goes to the same clubs, bars, etc., so if you frequent the same areas, you will meet him. I have 2 particular girl friends that visit the same clubs & bars as Toews a lot, and they're both pretty gorgeous. It took maybe 2 or 3 run-ins with Toews before they were invited back to his place (each woman at different times, lol I just realized that came across like it was an orgy thing, but sadly not). Once they exchanged info, he'd hit them up occasionally to meet him.
The last few times, his place was an apartment in the Loop, not his new place in Lincolnwood.
The rumors about Winnipeg are that when he goes there for weeks at a time, and his GF stays in Chicago, he sleeps around when that happens.
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From: (Anonymous)lol no orgies then.
He doesn't really come off as a "bro" just judging by what is portayed in the media, but yeah, I could see it. Thanks for sharing :)
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From: (Anonymous)I know this is super common for athletes, but I just don't get why they even bother to have a gf????
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From: (Anonymous)Why does anyone cheat? They want to have both emotional intimacy and also sexual variety and either have an understanding or don't care about hurting their primary partner.
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From: (Anonymous)Having a particular someone around for their downtime with whom they get along, who can show up to events and generally represent them well?
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From: (Anonymous)I feel like having a girlfriend for a lot of guys - not just athletes - makes them feel better about their image and ego. Like, they're doing something right if they have a girlfriend. Anytime I hear someone cheats, I also assume they're just not as into the person they're with in the first place as they used to be and they think it would be too much trouble/drama for them to break it off.
Open relationships are another thing though.
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From: (Anonymous)There's also a particular lack of respect for women in athletic circles that I feel makes cheating more likely. If you already don't respect your girlfriend's feelings or don't consider them completely valid, are you really going to care if you hurt her by cheating on her?
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From: (Anonymous)I used to have a friend who was cheating on her boyfriend and I asked her how she thought he would feel if he found out. She told me she didn't see why it mattered. I would think that's how most of them operate.
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From: (Anonymous)Well, open relationships are a completely other thing. I massively doubt the vast majority of hockey players have them, but I'd honestly respect them a lot more if they actually did have negotiated open relationships. It's a hell of a lot better than cheating. Not that we'd know, either way.
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From: (Anonymous)A little tangentially, the whole thing of beautiful girlfriend/wife as a symbol of success to be flaunted (which is rampant not only amongst athletes) is one of the reasons I find it so interesting that Crosby does the opposite, and is (or was) so private about his relationship with a beautiful model.
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From: (Anonymous)I am so sick of people tinhatting Crosby/Leutner. I think they're probably fuckbuddies, at best, because seriously? There's nobody that private for that many years. He's really not that famous.
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From: (Anonymous)The way I see it, Crosby takes enough pride in his success as a hockey player that he probably doesn't feel the need to flaunt having a beautiful girlfriend/wife to boost his image. I'm sure this applies to more players than just him as well and that they are more than happy to be confirmed bachelors.
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From: (Anonymous)I'm of the opinion that if she doesn't mind and he wouldn't mind if she hooks up when he wasn't around, what's the harm? If they don't see sex as something inescapably intertwined with love, it's the equivalent of going out on date nights vs. going out with your buddies. One's not a betrayal of the other.
Sadly, it's probably fairly rare that the girlfriend doesn't tolerate-and-resent his actions and the guy would be down for her picking up dudes when she felt like it.
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From: (Anonymous)You can't get everything in life. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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From: (Anonymous)Lol, why don't you just come out with it and call every woman who marries a rich athlete a gold digger if that's how you feel?
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From: (Anonymous)(Hell, Mike Fisher undoubtedly has far less money than his wife.)
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From: (Anonymous)From my knowledge of what I've heard - the common arrangement seems to be - well, I can't stop him from going out and cheating, but I'm his main girlfriend, and I'm the one he admits to publicly. In return, they get a lot of carte blanche in deciding how things are going to be run at home, and the spending money to do it, and, most importantly, the promise that when the career's done, the cheating stops. This is for the women that know about the cheating, and tolerate it.
The pro athletes I've talked to, including hockey players, do not tolerate the same behavior from their partners.
The difference is that usually these guys only do it when they're away on the road, so the partner doesn't have to deal with it in her face, or to make sure she doesn't find out.
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From: (Anonymous)It was a while ago, and I remember he went into more detail replying to people in a few comments, but I can't remember what else he said, sorry.
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From: (Anonymous)I think that may have been another situation? The guy I remember talked about living near Toews and seemed to be talking seriously with other posters.
Ultimately it's Reddit, so it's all grain of salt anyway.
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