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Re: Things You Wouldn't Admit Unanon

From: (Anonymous)
sa

Actually, I'm going to expand that. I just need way more emotional constipation in this fandom, and I don't mean broning where guys are too busy being bros to notice they're in a gay relationship. I don't even really mean stuff dealing with internalized homophobia. I just have a weakness for guys who don't have feelings because Real Men Don't Do That, but then end up having them anyway in some traumatic fashion.

Re: Things You Wouldn't Admit Unanon

From: (Anonymous)
Six days later, I am CPing the hell out of this into my inspiration folder, because you've hit on some stuff that I am both super tired of (The Bros Who Don't Realize What's Going On) and that I want more of: guys without feelings, who actually do have them.

SO MANY of the guys I know just have this...gaping absence in their lives when it comes to talking about feelings. Particularly about their wives/significant others. They just don't do it. And women tend to share that stuff a lot more, so it shows up in fic: all these dudes talking about their feelings.

And don't get me wrong. I LOVE a good adult conversation that gets at the heart of the conflict between characters, but I'm ready to slam that Repress/Deny/Ignore button, too. Because having legitimately emotionally constipated guys HAVE to work through something that they otherwise just wouldn't would be really satisfying to read/write.

Re: Things You Wouldn't Admit Unanon

From: (Anonymous)
ayrt

I think part of it is that guys in hockey fic tend to pretty self-aware about their feelings, even if they don't dare talk about them, and I don't think that's always necessary or realistic characterization. Sometimes it doesn't even need to involve repress/ignore/deny on a conscious level because it's so instinctive.

Anyway, I am delighted to hear this, and I hope you find it a very inspirational line of thought! :)